In any ONE of the 12 step books you'll find step one is to admit we are powerless!
For codependents it means giving up control, letting God take over our descission making, let people make thier own mistakes, be responsiable for own actions, and deal with our own feelings!
"Codependants Guide to the Twelve Steps" by Melody Beattie
THE ROOTS OF CONTROL
" The belief that we have power over other people is a powerful belief- a destructive illusion that many of us learned in childhood." |