So far I have not gotten any real response from ACA World Service Office.

I’m getting feelings of abandonment here!

But I’m going to press on here.

If there are any topics that you want covered post me through my profile on the forum or to the ACA section of the forum.

The topic I would like to cover tonight is “Repeating the Patterns of Childhood”.

I have seen that there are several of those patterns that were making my life unmanageable.

One of them I can identify fast is finding women I can “rescue” usually because they resemble either my mother (overweight, needy, withdrawn, helpless&hellip or my grandmother (Short tempered, demanding, never happy, never satisfied...)

I realized that my x wife was an attempt to rescue my mom.

There was another woman I was engaged to that was so much like my grandmother that they even used the same put down lines.

Another pattern that I see, even today, is finding losing situations and hanging on to them long passed the point where most other people would give up and walk away.

One I can point to is one of my previous jobs. It was a vocational rehab with a focus on helping alcoholics and addicts… The main problem is that our executive director could not stay sober.

I kept trying to fix it.

There were so many other patterns I see now.

For me seeing those patterns and how they were a trap were the same as seeing how the first drink lead to a drunk. They were the behavior I was using to trap myself.

And once I could see the problems I could start to make different choices.