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- Typically, I come from a dysfunctional home in which my emotional needs were not met.
- Having received little real nurturing myself, I try to fill this unmet need vicariously by becoming a caregiver, especially to people who appear, in some way, needy.
- Because I was never able to change my parents into the warm, loving caretakers I longed for, I respond deeply to the familiar type of emotionally unavailable person whom I can again try to change, through my love.
- Terrified of abandonment, I will do anything to keep a relationship from dissolving.
- Almost nothing is too much trouble, takes too much time, or is too expensive if it will "help" the person I am involved with.
- Accustomed to lack of love in personal relationships, I am willing to wait, hope, and try harder to please.
- I am willing to take far more than 50 percent of the responsibility, guilt, and blame in any relationship.
- My self esteem is critically low, and deep inside I do not believe I deserve to be happy. Rather, I believe I must earn the right to enjoy life.
- I have a desperate need to control people and relationships, having experienced little security in childhood. I mask my efforts to control people and situations as "being helpful".
- In a relationship, I am much more in touch with your dream of how it could be than with the reality of your situation. I am addicted to my partner and emotional pain.
- I may be predisposed emotionally and often biochemically to become addicted to drugs, alcohol, and/or certain foods, particularly sugary ones.
- By being drawn to people with problems that need fixing, or by being enmeshed in situations that are chaotic, uncertain, and emotionally painful, I avoid focusing on my responsibility to myself.
- I may have a tendency toward episodes of depression, which I try to forestall through the excitement provided by an unstable relationship.
- I am not attracted to people who are kind, stable, reliable, and interested in me. I find such "nice" people boring.
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